Sunday, February 1, 2015

2015 Off and Running

Grad school…

By the time you read this post I’m in the thick of it.  Spring semester has begun. I’m taking two classes/six hours, Counseling Diverse Populations and Assessments In Counseling.  This semester I have one online class and one class on campus.  What can I say about online classes?  I will have to hold my tongue until I have spent more time in my class.  Right now it feels strange.  I prefer my professor in class with me so that I can ask questions as we cover the material.  My degree plan is sixty hours and there are about five classes total that have an online option.  If you haven’t noticed technology has taken over every area of our life whether you want it to or not. Recently, I went to see my advisor to file my degree plan and he informed me that I should start my practicum this fall.  That means I will be counseling live bodies, helping real people with issues, at a field site in just a few months.  Although I am nervous, I am secure in the fact that I will be prepared when the time comes.

Tuesdays are very busy.  All the boys are in school on Tuesday which means lots of driving for me.  Dropping the boys off, going to study, picking the boys up, meeting my husband at our specified location so we can switch cars, he takes the boys home and then I’m off to campus for class then driving home. Rinse and repeat.  Lots. of. driving.  I’m hoping gas prices remain low.

Around my home…..

Well mostly I’ve been focusing on food prep and keeping my home clean.  When I say clean I don’t mean spotless but de-cluttered with dishes washed, bathrooms clean, floors mopped, and laundry done.  My goal this semester is to spend less eating out and somehow manage a cleaning schedule on our own. I fired the maid. Yes, I had a maid.  We’ll see how long we can manage.

Meal planning…

Throughout the years I have attempted many types of meal planning schemes.  I learned that I don’t have a problem with planning meals however carrying them out is another issue.  My current meal planning has been condensed and simplified.  Last year I started cooking meals based on what my family eats.  We sat down at the table and I wrote down all of our favorites, snacks, breakfasts, desserts, dinners, etc.  I have since broken the list down into ten different categories like beef meals, seafood meals, chicken meals etc. Once a week I pick five to seven meals, one from each category and that’s the meal plan. Currently, I’m not cooking meals for the month.  But I am batch cooking some of our favorites.  (For those of you who don’t know what batch cooking means.  Essentially you double or triple your recipe for your favorite meals.)  So when I cook a meal I split in half we eat half and the other goes into the deep freeze with a label for the month and year it was cooked.  These frozen meals can be pulled out during the busy times when mom doesn’t have time to cook.  

Home education….

My older boys are pretty much keeping to the schedule I created at the beginning of the year.   I’m not in love with the way things are but were getting things accomplished and that’s what matters.  Joshua on the other hand we don’t have a specific schedule and I feel bad about that.  We continue to work on phonics, handwriting and math with him.  Joshua comes after Emmanuel who was reading books at four so when I compare the two boys at times I feel bad because Joshua is not learning at the speed of Emmanuel.  Then I remember we are unique and there is no need to hold Joshua to the standard that worked for Emmanuel.  We will work at his pace.  This semester I will be stepping things up a bit with him.  I like to teach my boys to read early. Christopher was reading in Kindergarten and Emmanuel was reading at four So I’m hoping to get Joshua really reading before we start Kindergarten with him.  The boys are making A’s at their school which is great.  As far as homeschooling goes I think the end is near well sort of.  My husband has decided that each child will attend a regular school beginning seventh grade.  That means I only have two years left with my oldest, five years with Emmanuel and seven years Joshua.  Let’s hope I make it at home.  I may change my mind and send them all to school prior to the seventh grade. Its bitter sweet.  I’m grateful for the time we’ve shared and looking forward to what comes next. 

Birthdays…

Were in the midst of birthday season.  Each child has turned a year older, they are now 10, 7, and 5.  My sweet man will be 40 this month and I will be 36 in March. 

I will come back later with a post that includes pictures.

Until next time.

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Happy New Years/ 2014 Wrap Up

Happy new year!  I’m thankful to see a new year but I can’t begin this new year without reviewing 2014.

2014 began with me attending a homeschool moms conference.  Many times along this homeschool journey my self confidence has taken many hits.  I decided to begin 2014 investing in myself as a confidence booster.  Coincidentally I choose to focus on one word for the year.  Instead of creating resolutions I chose to focus on that word and how the lack of self-confidence affected many other areas of my life.  That led me to read a book written by Roxanne Parks the organizer of the conference.  I memorized scriptures to remind me of God’s providence.  Each week I would write one scripture on my mirror in the bathroom to meditate on. One of the scriptures that sticks out to me was Phil 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.

I can not recap all the years events but 2014 was eventful.  Joshua got pneumonia, we had home renovations, Christopher had two surgeries and Emmanuel was very sick twice, our fish died, lastly my mother’s side of the family  had a family reunion, I think its been over 20 years since our last family reunion. 

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Another area that stands out to me is my marriage. My marriage was really  stretched this past  year.   Marriage is a journey and the longer your united the more obstacles you’ll encounter along the way.  One area that has been a stressor between us is my desire to have more children.  Yes,I would like more children.  As crazy as that may sound I’ve always wanted a large family.  When we first got married my husband did not want as many kids as I however we agreed that we would have four and then decide if we would have any more children.  Well we never got to four kids because along the way my husband felt like we had reached our capacity.  This has been a very sad reality to live with.  My husband is the head of our home and trusting God that he is making the right choice when my heart believes we should go another direction has been extremely difficult.  Submission is not easy. Well this year I fell like I’m finally moving beyond that.  Oh it has been a journey filled with tears, anger, frustration and long talks.  Some people don’t understand my desire to have more children, while others are sympathetic to my situation.  Anyway I feel that I’m getting to a point where I can actually talk about it without breaking down into tears.  Most days I’m okay with our decision but whenever I see a little girl something happens to me.  Growing up as an only child, I just knew I would have a little girl.  I was certain of it.  My heart was prepared for a little girl and so when that day never came I was stuck on all the missed possibilities.  Don’t get me wrong, I love being a boys mom.  Boys are great and according to some they are a lot easier to raise than girls.  I don’t know but I’m grateful for my little guys I just always thought a little girl would be part of my lot.   

Aging parents has also been a pull on my marriage.  Both hubby and I only have our mothers left and both of them are well and vibrant women.  However there is a shift happening and determining which direction to go next has not been easy.  About a year ago my mother in law left Nigeria to retire in America.  We  are helping her get acclimated to life here in America but her being here has caused us to have some deep conversations like who should she live with, should we get a bigger house, what about health insurance etc. etc. etc..  Caring for an aging parent is a lot. I wish there were more literature on the subject for people my age.  There are so many things you don’t even think about until you are in the situation.  I always knew I would have to care for my parents but for some reason I always assumed that time would happen when my children were grown and gone not while I was in the midst of starting my own family.

If the above was not enough.  I applied and was accepted into graduate school.  My first semester is over and currently I have a 4.0 GPA.  My hopes are that I can maintain a 4.0 throughout graduate school. 

My children are growing and doing well.  Christopher turned 10, Joshua turned five and in a few days Emmanuel will be seven.  These boys are growing up too quickly.  They are doing well in school  and maturing into little men. 

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Last year my focus was on self confidence this year my word is marriage.  I am going to work on my marriage.  I feel that there are so many ways we can take our spouses for granted and we miss so many opportunities to connect.  2015 is going to be a year for me to really focus on how I can improve my perspective about my marriage.  Although I wouldn’t describe our relationship as in trouble I do see some areas that I can improve upon. 

I’m really looking forward to 2015 and all that it has to offer. 

The boys start back school on the sixth and I begin my second semester of graduate school on the 20th.  This winter break has been full of rest and relaxation for me.  I’ve been busy at the sewing machine and catching up on recorded television programs and getting my household ready for the next semester.  Can’t wait to catch up with you all and share what’s happening with us for 2015.

 

Happy New Year

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

One Semester Down Nine To Go

My first semester of graduate school is officially over.  Thank goodness I survived. No I did more than survive, I kicked some college butt. In the words of my eldest son.  On my first day of class he gave me a little note that he wrote to encourage me.  My mom also wrote a nice little note to me which I read from time to time during the semester to give me the extra push I needed to keep going.

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This journey has left me speechless, in awe of The Almighty,  and crying tears of joy.  One day when I have the time to really compose my thoughts about this journey I will share a little more about how I arrived here at this moment.  Over on my other host site I did post a graduate school series where I shared some of the reasons I decided to pursue a graduate degree at this time in my life.  Unfortunately, I did not save them before transferring my blog back to Blogger.  I will see if there is a way I can retrieve the data and add those posts here at a later date.  

My grades posted earlier this week and I made two A’s, which means I currently have a 4.0.  The sheer fact that I’m capable of making a 4.0 13 years post undergrad school while homeschooling is a testament that there is a God!  Honestly, this endeavor would not be possible without hard work on my behalf but mercy and grace bestowed on me from the most high.  Thank You Lord!

This semester was not without its setbacks.  My previous cooking and cleaning schedule all went down the drain and I went into survival mode pretty early in the semester. We spent so much money eating out, which I have justified because we have to eat.  Next semester hopefully, we can eat  more from food prepared ahead of time. To say this semester was a challenge is an understatement.   Two of my children got sick one week I had a test and a paper due. In total I wrote 12 papers this semester.  12 papers may not be a lot for some but it was a stretch for me adjusting to APA style coming from a journalist background.   My fears were screaming out you can’t do this! What were you thinking!  This is impossible!  But the devil is a liar and yes I can and will do this with determination, love and support for those near and dear to me. My first two classes were very interesting. I found that I was very intrigued with my studies.  I’m eager to continue my studies and follow this path. My professor shared with me that she was so happy to have me in her class.  She thought my insight into the reading forced others to think on a deeper level and as a result our class discussions were very deep. She also said that she hopes that our paths will cross in the future and if I need anything don’t hesitate to reach out to her.  I’m still trying to take it all in and digest this semester. 

My winter break is in full swing and you can find me at my home relaxing with my children binge watching Netflix and washing the endless pile of laundry.  My days are filled with snuggles from my boys while sipping hot chocolate.   I’m not ashamed to say I’m being lazy.    After Christmas I will begin revising and tweaking some of our daily routines and batch cooking in preparation for the Spring semester. 

This semester has been such a blessing, more than words could probably ever convey.  My hope is that each semester will be equally as gratifying. 

I will post more about how the boys are progressing soon. 

Happy Holidays

Saturday, November 29, 2014

I'm Back!

Did you miss me? I have certainly missed you.  In case you haven't noticed www.randomuttering.com is now www.threeboysmom.com.  That's right I'm back with a different title.  The content from Random Uttering is still here now I will combine the content from Three Boys Mom.  You can pull up this blog by typing in either  web address. It will be this way until my license on Random Uttering expires.  In the mean time I am working with my header and a few other things.
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